What is Domestic Discipline? I was shocked by the of people who are practicing it, including Christians. One article described it as a movement in the Christian community. What is Domestic Discipline and why are so many couples engaging in it?
Domestic discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners in which the head of the household HoH takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, behaviors for the greater good of the entire family.
In addition to punishing the unwanted behaviors, the head of the household is responsible for reinforcing positive behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. Other methods can be used such as lecturing, removing privileges, corner and bedroom time. These methods are what most parents use to discipline their children.
Then, he uses a combination of tools based on the specific infraction. The wooden spoon is the least severe; for the worst rule-breaking—like texting while driving. Then, depending on the infraction, he uses the tool that would best apply.
Apparently, the wooden spoon is the lest severe of these tools. Another woman in the same article, said, that abuse is all about intent.
The worst thing I can do is disappoint him and I do that when I act on one of my character defects. He self corrects. It might sound weird, but that works for me. At what point does domestic discipline cross the line and become abuse? At what point does the husband go from exercising his power to abusing it? Very Well Mind gives the following comparison between abuse and domestic discipline:.
According to a blog supporting CDD, here are three reasons why a woman should be thankful:. The blogger then goes explain why exactly the woman should be thankful to her husband, the head of the household HOHfor spanking her:. I read a comment about a pastor whose wife insulted another wife when they were guests in their home.
Finally, the pastor had had enough. He asked to use the library.
He and his wife went into the library and everyone heard her getting spanked, pleading for him to stop and promising to be a good girl. Is it discipline to have your wife standing there in the corner, naked? If you spank your child, do you have him or her stand naked in the corner after a spanking?
His treatment of her was abusive and degrading.
There are faith leaders who are against CDD. Here is what Faith Trust Institute had to say on their website:. Christian Domestic Disciple CDD is an example of one of these belief systems and we believe that these kinds of behaviors have no place in Christian marriages, or in any intimate relationship.
In comparing these behaviors to those often associated with domestic violence, it is difficult to distinguish one from the other. We urge faith leaders, advocates, and community leaders and members to stand against violence in all its forms, especially when it is masked by religious language or cultural norms.
The man is the head of the household and the woman submits to him in every way. But what is the husband supposed to do when his wife challenges his authority? Christian Domestic Discipline provides the answer to quieting disobedient wives. CDD empowers the husband also called the Head of Household or HoH to enforce his authority head his wife in whatever way he sees fit. Like most supporters of CDD, this blogger used Ephesians to support it. However what about verses where husbands are called to love their wives as themselves?
The submission of wives to their husbands is equated to their submission to Christ. Would Christ approve of DD? Absolutely not! Nor would Paul. Ephesians —29 goes on to say that husbands should love their wives as they do their own bodies. Unless a husband regularly inflicts corporal punishment on himself, there is no reason to use this passage to justify inflicting it upon his wife. If a wife is household being rebellious against her discipline, then biblical counseling is the next step, following the model of church disciplineas outlined in Matthew — If couples mutually agree to engage in this type of behavior, they are certainly entitled to do so.
I chose divorce. Michelle was given an ultimatum. Either she continued to receive the spankings or leave. She chose to leave. Are there women practicing this lifestyle who secretly want the spankings to stop but are afraid to speak up?
Are women choosing to stay and suffer in silence to avoid the stigma of a broken marriage? In the Bible marriage is defined as a man and wife becoming one flesh. After the Fall, man became the head of the woman but he is called to love her as himself and to treat her as he would himself. Marriage is a partnership. Authority is to be exercised in love not in tyranny.
I personally believe that while parents have the God given authority to discipline their children, it is God and God alone who should have and exercise the authority to discipline husbands and wives. We know that He would never do anything contrary to His Word and all that He does if out of love and for our good.
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Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined and everyone undergoes disciplinethen you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it.
How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. The responses you got back regarding your questions is playing into those fetishes.
That is kind of the point of it. Trust me, if a legitimate man is in a dd relationship, he spent a lot of time looking for a consensual partner. Like Like. Thanks for your comment, Mick.
Like Liked by 2 people. It is wrong, it is cowardly, and it is sexual perversion.
These men are sexually perverse; strange, and probably cannot even enjoy sex without doing something strange like this. Like Liked by 3 people. It is sexual perversion. Sex is a physical act of love between a husband and wife. It is something beautiful and natural. It should never be used as a form of control or abuse. What about Do unto others….?
I think DD is so close to spousal abuse that hardly any distinction can be made. Who made these men paragons of virtue, who spanks them when they screw up? Any woman who has been brought up to believe women are inferior and brought sin into the world would have a hard time saying NO to this practice. To the men I would say that Adam could have refused to eat the fruit, I am sure God would have provided him with another wife.
The stories in Genesis came from a very patriarchal source and I do not believe they are to be taken literally. Thanks for your comment, Lana. I have read stories and DD is not different from spousal abuse, the only difference is that the women are going along with it. They believe that they deserve to be spanked when they displease their husbands.